A Time To Love Part II
As things get a bit more complicated and Selmer's condition continues down the normal path of deterioration, I am trying to record the touching moments with Selmer as they come up and I want to share a few with everyone.
The first was on a previous post, but I will repeat it. It was the time last fall when Selmer in very unselmer like fashion wanted to call a family meeting to discuss his down hill slide sure to come in the next six months. Well, it's been a year, so he's had more time than he thought before he got so bad we'd have to put him in a home. That moved me because he approached me in the kitchen to tell me about it. That touched me a lot as I felt like a daughter he could confide in. He loved his daughters in laws as his own, even if we pissed him off some times... as I know I did.
Second: When we all recently met for Linda's birthday party at a restaurant and Selmer and Doris came, there was quite a commotion and we were all very chatty. I didn't get a chance to greet Selmer and I sat down the table from him with our large crowd. When we had to go home and were all saying good bye, I came up to him and he said, "Oh, now I know who you are!" That was so sad to me. After all, I am his favorite.... (kidding)
Third: Grandma Doris tells me that a few weekends ago when the boys and Cheri came to help at the house, and everyone left Selmer asked her where everybody went. She said "Well Selmer they went home." Selmer said, "Well it's just you and me who live here then?"
It's funny how we miss the activity of a full and vibrant family when they are gone. I felt his loneliness. He snuck outside that night and Doris didn't know it. He woke her up by knocking on her bedroom window.
The first scare of that kind, but bound to happen as he loves to go for walks. I don't doubt he was up on the hill looking for Doug and Josh as they camped up there the other weekend.
Funny how things work, as I went to post this blog a Blog of Note caught my eye: It's about a woman losing her sister to alzhiemers. Here it is: http://watchingmysisterdisappear.blogspot.com/
Very touching, sad and all to real today.
The first was on a previous post, but I will repeat it. It was the time last fall when Selmer in very unselmer like fashion wanted to call a family meeting to discuss his down hill slide sure to come in the next six months. Well, it's been a year, so he's had more time than he thought before he got so bad we'd have to put him in a home. That moved me because he approached me in the kitchen to tell me about it. That touched me a lot as I felt like a daughter he could confide in. He loved his daughters in laws as his own, even if we pissed him off some times... as I know I did.
Second: When we all recently met for Linda's birthday party at a restaurant and Selmer and Doris came, there was quite a commotion and we were all very chatty. I didn't get a chance to greet Selmer and I sat down the table from him with our large crowd. When we had to go home and were all saying good bye, I came up to him and he said, "Oh, now I know who you are!" That was so sad to me. After all, I am his favorite.... (kidding)
Third: Grandma Doris tells me that a few weekends ago when the boys and Cheri came to help at the house, and everyone left Selmer asked her where everybody went. She said "Well Selmer they went home." Selmer said, "Well it's just you and me who live here then?"
It's funny how we miss the activity of a full and vibrant family when they are gone. I felt his loneliness. He snuck outside that night and Doris didn't know it. He woke her up by knocking on her bedroom window.
The first scare of that kind, but bound to happen as he loves to go for walks. I don't doubt he was up on the hill looking for Doug and Josh as they camped up there the other weekend.
Funny how things work, as I went to post this blog a Blog of Note caught my eye: It's about a woman losing her sister to alzhiemers. Here it is: http://watchingmysisterdisappear.blogspot.com/
Very touching, sad and all to real today.
posted by JamaJama @ 11:26 PM
1 Comments:
Yes, It is sad to see him slip away slowly. The Selmer we new is not there anymore. He seems to know that he has this disease that is bothering him. He brings it up now and then. Actually, he has been friendlier and happier lately.
This is good to see.
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